For a person you loved deeply, would you be wiling to move to a distant country knowing there would be little chance of seeing your friends or family again?
My initial response here is YES, without a doubt, but then I have to think of how family is defined. There would be no way that I would go without my kids. Being minors, I simply assumed that they would be included in the ME in this, because of them simply being minors. I could never leave my children and not see them for extended periods of time. Hell, I miss them while I'm at work for a few hours, and although they can be frustrating to no end, they still are the center of my universe. Likewise, I couldn't be in a relationship with someone they didn't genuinely like. I'm not saying that they have to love them, because I wouldn't ever force that on anyone, but my kids definitely need to like the person that I'm with, otherwise, it doesn't matter how much I like the person, it isn't going to work. I love and respect my children too much for that. The same thing goes though, for the person that I am with. If they can't love my children like they love me (and yes, I will force the love issue for the other adult in the relationship, simply because it is a package deal... not force them to love them, but know that if they can't love them, then they can't truly love me), then they can't be with me. Anyone who would want me to leave my children to be with them doesn't deserve me, and couldn't love me like I needed to be loved.
The "little chance" in this is what makes me say that if I could take my children with me, it would be a resounding yes. I know that my family wants to see me happy, and if they knew that not seeing me would equate to that, then it would be something that they would support me on. If it had been worded "never", it may have been something that I would need to think about a little harder.
As for friends, I have very few of them that I see on a consistent basis anyway. I communicate with most of them through text messages or online anyway, for the most part. I would miss Jodi, as she's been the one constant in my life since pretty much day one as far as friendship goes, but I also know that I could contact her pretty much anytime through other methods. She would also be the one most likely to visit me, if I were in a different country. Given that, then I wouldn't hesitate to go.
So, this doesn't simply have a straightforward answer, as the question is too ambiguous to give one, but I threw out when it could happen, and when it couldn't, and what exactly would have to happen for it to happen.
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